Tips to Remember During a Divorce

Divorce can be one of the most stressful experiences in life. Knowing what to expect and being prepared may reduce the worry associated with the experience. Below are some important tips to remember when going through the divorce process.

Before

• When your relationship is past the point of reconciliation, manage the difficult emotions that are associated with divorce.
• Once you recognize that your marriage is not salvageable, collect all of your financial information and keep track of your financial activity.
• Your children’s best interest should be a priority at all times.

During

• Be honest and accurate in all disclosures, including financial information.
• Be completely cooperative with your attorney and be sure to provide all information that is requested.
• Make your attorney aware of all important developments and significant changes such as the loss of a job, newly disclosed assets/debts, or any parent-child issues.
• Understand the meaning of court orders that restrict or limit behaviors and contact your attorney if you need assistance.
• Be cautious when communicating with your spouse during divorce proceedings whether it be through emails, texts or social media. These communications can easily be forwarded to opposing counsel, family and/or friends.
• When your spouse assumes a reasonable position on issues, seek a settlement. By doing so, it will lead to a more predictable outcome and will control the costs involved with litigation.
• Have realistic expectations and/or forecast your financial situation following the dissolution of your marriage.
• Avoid domestic violence at all times.  Be prompt in reporting incidents of domestic violence if you or your children are the victim of abuse.

After

• You should continue to keep the best interests of your children as your primary focus.
• If circumstances develop regarding the enforcement or interpretation of the divorce judgement, consult your attorney.
• Prioritize your emotional health and that of your children.  Do not hesitate to seek professional help to work through the emotional and mental stress associated with divorce.